A Mother’s Day Blessing

Dear Lord,

Today we come to you and ask you to bless the mothers. 

Bless the mothers who are in this very room – the mothers of fresh little babies, wiggling in their arms and bouncing on their hips. The mothers of teenagers who are growing taller by the day. The mothers of grown children who are raising families of their own. May they know how much they are loved. 

Bless the mothers who are not with us today. The mothers who are taking care of loved ones. The mothers who are no longer able to venture out of their homes. The mothers who have responsibilities that carry them away from us. May they know how much they are loved. 

Bless the mothers who live around us and who we see every day. Bless the mothers who are far from us, who we will never meet. Bless the mothers who speak beautiful languages other than ours. Bless the mothers who live in large and expensive homes and the mothers who live in one room houses with dirt floors. Bless the mothers of our world, Lord. May they know how much they are loved. 

Bless the mothers who work in an office, the mothers who work at home, the mothers who farm land all day, the mothers who teach in classrooms, the mothers who work non-stop to keep everything going. Bless the single mothers, the mothers who live in affluence, the mothers who live in poverty. Bless the mothers who have worries larger than some of us may ever know. Bless the mothers who have children with special needs, the mothers watching over their children in a hospital bed, the mothers who are also their child’s nurse and constant caregiver. May they know how much they are loved. 

And finally, we ask that You bless the mothers who are hurting. Bless the mothers who are waiting to become a mom one day, the mothers whose children are now with You, the mothers who are motherless, the mothers who grieve for lost children. Bless the mother’s who have a mother’s heart – who poured their lives into other people’s children even though they had no children of their own. May they know how much they are loved. 

Lord, give these mothers Your blessing today and all the days. May every single mother know she is seen by You, that her prayers are heard by You, that she is tenderly held by You, and loved by You, the Mother and Father of us all. 

Amen. 

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No Mere Mortal

My Grandmother is famous for many things. Like her bad habit of hiding Christmas presents around the house as she buys them throughout the year, only to forget about them in December and requesting that the family go on a scavenger hunt to find the lost items. 

Or the way she would drive pell-mell all over the counties of Mississippi, braking with her left foot and flooring it with her right, her small frame barely reaching over the giant steering wheel. My grandfather taught her to drive after they were married, and she never quite mastered the finer points of, let’s say, steering and stopping and turning. The story goes that one time she came home with only 3 out of the 4 hubcaps on her Pontiac. She insisted to everyone that she had no clue where the hubcap could have dropped off, while my grandfather insisted that she had to have hit something to knock it off. After several weeks, the missing hubcap was discovered by my grandfather next to a dented guardrail. He proudly brought it home and nailed it to a tree – a little monument to my grandmother’s driving skills that she had to see every time she looked out the kitchen window. 

Or the time she decided to serve tacos for our Christmas meal because she was tired of ham and turkey. 

Or how she would stick little sandwich bags of cash in the freezer for safe keeping. 

Or her many margarine dishes in the fridge that contained everything but margarine. 

But probably the thing she is most famous for, amongst all family members and at least three neighboring counties, are her biscuits. 

Handmade, crispy on the bottom, flaky on the top, melt in your mouth biscuits. 

“Biscuits in the well” is what she calls them and I can’t remember a day I didn’t love them. When I was a child visiting her house, I would wake up in the mornings to sounds of laughter and conversation floating from the kitchen. I would sit up from my lumpy pallet on the floor, crawl over all the twisted limbs and tangled heads of cousins sleeping next to me, and sniff the air greedily. Biscuits. 

Still half asleep, I would shuffle my feet on the dusty, tan linoleum floor and make my way to the kitchen. An oval wooden table with a dozen chairs, none matching, but somehow all looking like they belonged there, would greet me. And there would be my grandmother, standing in front of the sink, hands deep in flour and oil, rolling out biscuits. Her apron would be covered in grease stains and fresh flour. She would still be wearing her night dress. Aunts, uncles, neighbors and sometimes strangers would be sitting at the table. Newspapers were spread out, debates were in full swing, a dog would be barking, and a baby would be banging on the table with tiny fists. 

The biscuits would be baking on cast iron sheet pans, so heavy mere mortals could not lift them out of the oven. But somehow my Grandmother could do it. Probably because she is no mere mortal. 

As soon as a fresh batch would make it out of the oven, hands would grab for them. Eating them hot was always the best, but they tasted just fine when they were cold. Or even better crumbled up in a glass of milk for supper. 

Those biscuits fed babies and old men. They fed wanderers who were just sleeping over on their way to another destination. They fed good friends. They fed people who had grown up on that very soil in rural Mississippi and they fed internationals who had never stepped foot on American dirt before. They fed rich, poor, black, white, believers and doubters. They fed anyone who was invited to the table, which was exactly everyone. 

If I had to stop and guess, I think those biscuits made it into the hands of more people than can fit into the LSU stadium. I speculate that thousands of humans on this earth have enjoyed hot biscuits rolled by my Grandmother’s hands and plopped onto cast iron sheet pans.

Now that I’ve reached the ripe old age of 42, I’ve been thinking a lot about changing the world. What happened to that young girl who was so eager to make a difference? She was going to set out to do something BIG. What has she done at all to improve this place? Does a mortgage and a dented Mom Car count? 

And then I think about my Grandmother. Covered in flour and standing in front of a sink, wearing an old night dress and rolling biscuits by hand. 

She changed the world with a pan of biscuits. 

I’m sure she never set out to have her biscuits be life-changing. All she wanted was to provide a meal for the people she loved. But somewhere in those biscuits she discovered the secret for changing the world. And it’s been there the whole time, the secret staring at me, ready for me to discover it too. 

Maybe I don’t need to start a revolution. Maybe I don’t need to write the next great American novel or make millions. Maybe all the things I have been chasing don’t really matter at all. Maybe I’ve been too focused on all the wrong things.

Maybe all I need to do to change the world is to offer someone a seat at my table and a pan of biscuits. 

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Lessons In Growing Older

My 42nd birthday was last week. It’s crazy how these birthdays keep happening, faster and faster every year. And as they move faster, other things start to slow down. Like my metabolism and reflexes, digestion and remembering my multiplication tables. I find that my joints hurt more, I can’t stand up without a little limp, and my feet shuffle more than they run.

Honestly, I’ve never been one to worry about getting older. I’ve enjoyed the years. I hope I have a lot more of them to come. But the problem of birthdays lies in the fact that I don’t think my mind has caught up with the years. My mind never agrees with the number of birthday candles on the cake. My mind stays stuck somewhere in the past – a time when youth was on my side. 

This problem is so bad that when people ask me how old I am, my mind shouts out “23!” before my body can say “42”. And when the number 42 comes out of my mouth, my mind laughs a little – like what a good joke to tell people I’m so much older than I actually am. 

And then I stop and realize I am 42 and it’s always a little bit of a shock, a punch in the gut to my 23 year old mind. “What? Is this really true???”

It is true, I tell my mind. Remember Sliding Rock? 

Ah yes – Sliding Rock, the golden place for young people. It’s a haven for those who don’t know about mortgages and insurance premiums. A giant nature-made water park in the beautiful mountains of Arizona, where those who have lived less than three decades go to frolic and play in their blissful youth. 

It was the whoops of laughter that drew me in. Watching kids and teens and barely adults slip and slide down rocks made smooth from flowing water. It looked like so much FUN. The sun was dancing on the water, calling me to jump in. Enticing me with it’s sparkle and rhythm.

Seize the day! My mind told me. Live! Dive in! You’re 23!

So I took the plunge before I remembered that I, in fact, was not 23 at all. 

As soon as that icy cold water washed over me and I began to slide down the first rock, my body screamed out “Stop! You forgot you were 42!”

Within seconds, I had analyzed all the parts of me that were in danger of snapping in two. I had calculated my deductible and how much money it would take to put me back together. I felt every bump and knew that giant, blue bruises would soon appear and that I wouldn’t be able to sit down in a chair for a week and a half. My body turned into some sort of stiff board that refused to bend and flow like all the other young bodies I saw around me. I was going to die within seconds, I just knew it.

As soon as I came to a stop, I stood up. Shaking from the cold water, I looked around for the fastest way to get out of that death trap. My kids were standing on the edge of the water, pretending not to know me. Scott was shaking his head and laughing. The youth were stacking up behind me ready to slide and it was then that I realized with a sinking feeling that I had no way out. 

The rocks were too slippery to walk on. The water was rushing past my ankles making my balance questionable. And there was no way on God’s green earth I was sitting back down to slide to the end. I looked around, desperate to get out. 

That’s when a young man, probably in college and hanging out with his buddies on a sunny afternoon, stood on the rocks and reached out his hand to me. 

“Ma’am,” he said. “I can help you out if you give me your hand.”

I stared at him and managed to sputter, “I’m just so c-c-c-cold.”

“I know,” he said in a soothing voice that I’m sure he used with his grandmother. “It’s ok. Just give me your hand and I’ll help you out.”

It hit me in that moment. I’m old. I’m old and this college kid is talking to me like an octogenarian who has fallen and can’t get up. While my mind was screaming “You’re 23!” the rest of the world was seeing a middle-aged mom who was creeping toward the elderly side of life. It was one of those moments that seemed to happen in slow motion – the realization that I have slipped on over to the other side. 

I smiled at the young man, still standing there with his arm outstretched.  And then I did what any self-respecting woman at my age would do – I refused his hand and got down on my knees. I belly crawled my way out of that misery and up the rocks to safety. I wrapped up in a towel and thanked God that I had made it out alive. No more crazy adventures for this 42 year old. 

Later that afternoon, I ordered a large pizza and mozzarella cheese sticks for dinner. I signed up for an off-road jeep tour. I contemplated a horse-back riding class for when I returned home. While my body had not yet recovered from the morning rock sliding fiasco, my mind was back to being 23 again. 

I guess that’s the best thing about getting older. It’s so easy to forget. 

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